My years as an EMT helped me to see just how important triage really is. When the doors of the ER are abruptly pushed open by a stretcher carrying a young man with a major bleed, the attention of the medical personnel is turned from the man with the broken limb, or the woman with terminal cancer, or the child with a “runny nose” to the medical emergency—the man with the major bleed. Yes! Each patient is very important and each patient’s problem is just as important; however, there is a protocol that must be followed. One would think that the man with the broken limb would gladly wait until the physicians attended the man with the major bleed, but experience shows us that this is not the case. In the same way, one would think that the family of the lady with the terminal cancer, or the parents of the child with the “runny” nose would gladly wait until the physicians attended the man with the major bleed; however, our self-centeredness most often rules. If you do not believe me, spend a few hours in the ER or in a MD’s waiting room, and while you are there watch and listen. Even better, put yourself on the stretcher, and answer this question: Who is my neighbor? More than likely, the only way you will find the answer is to face the more difficult question: Who is neighbor to the one with the major bleed? Maybe, just maybe, it is your turn to be the “good Samaritan.”
One Wednesday evening, many years ago now, something happened that I vividly remember. I was teaching a Bible study, when someone unexpectedly entered the room with two urgent prayer requests. After apologizing for having “interrupted” the Bible study, he went on to share the specifics of his requests. It was certainly obvious to me, and I believe to everyone else, that he was desperate for someone to pray for him. I immediately stopped teaching and asked the group to join in prayer in his behalf. What followed disturbed me. Instead of praying for the man, several in the group began to share their own requests. Not one person mentioned this man or his requests. It was as if he had never entered the room.
Although I am fully aware that their requests were very important and urgent to them, it concerned me that the focus so quickly moved from this man’s requests to “our” requests. This man had driven to the church and mustered the courage to “interrupt” our Bible study for the sole purpose of having us pray for matters that were very urgent to him, and, unfortunately, we responded with a time of sharing our own requests. In my opinion, our response demonstrated our self-centeredness. We had, obviously, moved the focus off him and onto ourselves.
Make no mistake about this: I always want (and encourage) people to feel free to share their prayer requests with one another and to pray for one another; however, I do not want our self-centeredness to rule our lives and, thereby, cause us to miss the opportunities of ministry that He places before us. There are times when we should be sensitive to the fact that another has a major “hemorrhage,” and, therefore, desperately needs someone to assist in stopping his bleed. Surely, these are the times when we should set our own needs and concerns aside and selflessly minister to others.
The man who had “interrupted” the Bible study was obviously struggling emotionally with the concerns he brought to us, so much so that he left the room to regain his composure. In a few minutes, he returned to thank the group for praying. I wondered what he was really thinking and feeling.
From the moment he entered the room, I was overcome with the reality of the Presence of the Holy Spirit and with the fact that God was doing something very significant. I struggled to discern what it was, but I could not, at least not in the moment. To be sure, I did not think that this man had interrupted the Bible study! I soon realized that he brought to light a truth that the group desperately needed to learn: Do nothing from selfishness or empty conceit, but with humility of mind let each of you regard one another as more important than himself” (Philippians 2:3 NASB).
The following is an excerpt from an article I read by Dr. Larry Crabb in Christian Counseling Today, vol. 10; no 1; p. 48:
It all comes down to self-centeredness, to a naturally self-focused, self-reliant soul that we’re powerless to change. We place our interests above God’s; we plot ways to use God for our agendas; and we refuse to recognize God’s glory as the final value we can joyfully pursue. That is our deep sin. There is only one answer: grace. We need forgiveness that then empowers us to live a new way, supernaturally, in community, with broken and grateful saints.
For whatever it might be worth, I agree with Dr. Crabb and I trust that we can somehow move beyond that which we are powerless to change into that “new creation” which Jesus brought into existence through His death, burial, and resurrection.
Grace lavished (and I mean that!),
"This is the work of God, that you believe in Him whom He has sent" (John 6:29 NASB).